UH…I’M PRETTY SURE WRESTLEMANIA AND GAME OF THRONES SEASON 4 PREMIER ARE ON THE SAME NIGHT. THIS IS NOT FAIR AT ALL.
I met Olga in 2010 at VidCon. She was a very smart, very clever, very cool young woman. I thought it was weird (but kinda cool) that Tom had found a cool fan who could hold her own with a bunch of the top-tier VidCon folks and let her behind the curtain a little bit.
It never occurred to me that it would become more than that. And though I knew Olga remained part of that social sphere, I had no inkling that they had become a couple. I am horrified and extremely disappointed in myself that I was not able to realize that this was happening and put a stop to it…maybe even before it started.
I won’t comment on the specifics of this relationship because that isn’t my place. But the more fact that it existed infuriates me…sexual relationships need to be equitable and they can’t be when people are in dramatically different life stages or when one person enters the relationship as a fan of another.
I haven’t said anything about this today because I just don’t know what to say. Tom was my friend. I looked up to him…I trusted him. I am furious…that’s all I can feel right now.
My only consolation is that I honestly believe these issues are coming to light in this community not because they are more common, but because we are more empowered to speak out and not hide from or cover them up.
And that’s excellent, because you cannot fix a problem if you do not face a problem.
I share Hank’s disappointment. (It’s not clear in Hank’s post, but he is referring to credible accusations concerning the musician and YouTuber Tom Milsom.)
I don’t know how to feel about this stuff except sad and angry, but I want to be public about my sadness and anger, because I don’t want to let this go unacknowledged.
I’ve written and deleted thousands of words about this today, and I’m grateful to Hank for saying most of what I wanted to say. Consenting adults: Go forth and do all the things! But the abuse of power we seem to see regularly in these manipulative fan/creator relationships is reprehensible and unacceptable. We are working hard to make sure that events we plan and endorse are as safe and secure as possible.
On a professional note, we continue to have a zero tolerance policy for abusive behavior by artists whose work is distributed by DFTBA Records, so his music is no longer for sale at DFTBA.
Mr. McMahon hitting that white girl selfie pose.
This is unsettling
I can’t believe this
It is 45 outside and I just went outside in a jacket and shorts. Let me tell you, I’ve never been more happy for it to be warm enough to go outside and kick the shit out of ice.
This is all I’m going to say on these matters
I hope that what this is doing for people is helping them come to realize that this sort of stuff CAN happen and that it gives them the power to realize they can stop it before it even begins to happen. I also hope this helps other victims come out and tell their stories. They need to know that their stories will be heard and they don’t have to hide in the shadows, worried that nobody is going to believe them because “the big super famous internet star” is going to sick their fans on them.